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Women Often Assume Sexual Arousal During Sex

December 9th, 2009 by BigJoe | No Comments | Filed in Male Masturbator

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Unless they masturbate, most women are unaware that clitoral stimulation is needed for female orgasm. Equally, they are unaware that before genital stimulation can be effective, a person needs to know how to achieve true sexual arousal, which depends on an appreciation of eroticism (images for men; scenarios for women).

Despite their conviction otherwise, most women are unfamiliar with how to achieve their own sexual arousal since they never masturbate. Consequently even those professing enthusiasm for sex are rarely able to display any real knowledge about how to reach orgasm.

One woman was content with her many years of marital sex: “I have to disagree with the comment of a woman’s arousal and the ease of achieving orgasm. Maybe I am one of the lucky women out there that is in touch with her sexual being. I get sexually aroused by my husband just by looking at him without his shirt, the words that he uses with me, and by the attention that he gives to me. Also I have I believe an easy time in obtaining an orgasm or two with my husband.”

Most men orgasm with a partner within a few minutes. So is this woman saying that she is able to match her partner’s speed of reaching orgasm? Perhaps her partner is one of those one-in-a-million men who is willing to continue pleasuring a partner after he has come?

Anyone who suggests that it all happens ‘naturally’ or that women’s arousal is as easy as men’s is, frankly, mistaken. Women’s minds and bodies simply do not work the same way as men’s. If they did then women would seek sex outside a relationship as well as pay for lap- and pole-dancing as men do. The sight of the naked male body and male genitals do not cause us to become aroused enough for orgasm. Also we do not approach sex with an erection as men do because our bodies are not full of testosterone (the hormone responsible for sex drive) as men’s bodies are.

Women who discover orgasm through masturbation in their twenties or thirties will often admit that they had always been utterly convinced that they did orgasm during sex when it turns out they didn’t. How can women not understand that orgasm is a significant pleasure? Not only do you definitely notice orgasm but also you set out with the intention of achieving it.

When I talk about the fact that sex tends to be much more important to most men than it is to most women, I am talking about how we enjoy our own sexual arousal and orgasm. Women who disagree with me are usually talking about the emotional aspects of their relationships with men.

A popular suggestion is that a woman needs a truly loving partner who knows how to ‘give a woman an orgasm’. Wouldn’t that be nice! It is a fallacy to think that anyone else can give us an orgasm. Even men have to learn about their own sexual arousal through masturbation.

I would love to believe that women understand how their sexual arousal works but the evidence stands against this. Most women appear to be unaware even of the fact that clitoral stimulation is required for orgasm. Since few women masturbate, most do not understand the role of sexual fantasies in women’s sexual arousal.

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Jane Thomas author of www.WaysWomenOrgasm.org
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Make Sure if your Ed is your Own Doing or Not!

December 9th, 2009 by BigJoe | No Comments | Filed in Male Masturbator

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Erectile dysfunction is a disease that almost every male experiences at some point in his life. It is actually quite hard to escape ED for any human male. Impotence as ED is more commonly called is also far more widespread than one would like to believe. The sad fact is that the males in their twenties and thirties also face the trauma of ED. This is ideally not the age when one should or would like to experience erectile dysfunction. But irrespective of the likings or the norms erectile dysfunction does happen to people at an early age- sometimes as early as in the teens.

There are certain simple rules and regulations that if and when followed can go a long way in the prevention of erectile dysfunction. It is actually not natural for ED to come at an early age but certain conditions lend to its occurrence. Basically an undisciplined lifestyle is the culprit. Erections can be at their rocking best if the person concerned abstains from addictions. Addictions play a major role in the occurrence of ED in people. Even if a person is an addict, and finds it difficult to give up on the habit, he should at least try and cut down on the intake.

A body massage has always been one of the favourite foreplays. It is extremely beneficial for a rock solid erection. Body massages with herbal oils can work wonders in the sex life of a person. A clear bladder and bowel is also important in order to have an erection that is exciting and lasting. Nothing more is required to be said about the role of exercises in the healthy sex life of a person.

Another fact that is required to be given importance is the matter of masturbation. There is nothing wrong with masturbation physically. Ethics and morals are a different matter. But there should be a limit to everything and masturbation is no different. Masturbation should ideally be restricted. It should not exceed more than twice or thrice a week. Masturbating very often makes it difficult for a man to maintain an erection. He tends to ejaculate quite fast. Faster than his lady would ideally like.

A good and healthy diet is a pre requisite for a good sex life. Whenever you open a page on ED you are bound to find instructions on the need of a good diet and physical exercises for a good sex life. So there is no need whatsoever to repeat the already said and understood. And yes, as a rejoinder try and shed the extra fats if you have any. Obesity is a very potent ED cause.

If you are immaculate enough regarding the ED preventions there are chances that you won’t be fighting ED at an early age. However, if you happen to get ED nevertheless, at a young or old age you can take the help of the oral ED. You can buy levitra or cialis after getting a prescription for the same. Levitra online is an easier option to order levitra. Whatever the mode remember it is a medicine and hence must be used only as per the instructions given by a doctor.

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The author writes articles on health issues related to male sexuality like erectile dysfunction and is also an expert on the FDA approved anti-impotency medication levitra.
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Sex Magick

December 8th, 2009 by BigJoe | No Comments | Filed in Male Masturbator

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Sex and sexuality play a large part in many religions. Myths are derived from sex based ancient myths. For instance, in the Dianic myth, Diana falls in love with her image and makes love to herself. From this, she gives birth to a son, and her brother Lucifer. Lucifer is her other half, and she falls in love with him, chasing him across the universe, pinning for him to make love to her. In Greek mythology, Gaia gives birth to the sea (Pontus) and the sky (Uranus). She achieves this parthenogenetically (without male intervention). Gaia took Uranus as her son and from him, she gave birth to the twelve titans, six males and six females. From them the Gods of Olympus took place there of the Greek mythology. Within many circles, the Great Rite is performed, either symbolically with an athame and a chalice, or actually between the High Priest and the High Priestess (or the initiate and High Priest/ess).

Sex can also be used to raise power within the circle/group. Power is raised so that it can be drawn upon anytime throughout the ritual to aid in the spells/ritual being performed. Sex between consenting adults, or solo masturbation can be used. Sex between two or more people needn’t be heterosexual, as homosexual sex can be just as powerful. For a woman, the time of menstruation is her most powerful time, and performing sex magic at this time will be more potent than at any other time. If you prefer not to be penetrated, mutual masturbation works just as well, as long as the orgasm is achieved. Alternatively, it can be performed during your most fertile, the height of ovulation. If your period is regular, 28 day cycle, then this would be around 2 weeks after the first day of your last period (or if you are in rhythm with the Moon’s cycles, then this should fall on the Full Moon – doubly as powerful!). But remember, this is also the time that pregnancy can also occur, so unless you do want to get pregnant, make sure that you use condoms.

Preparation If you are performing this by yourself, then maybe the best place for privacy and comfort would be your bedroom. Set up your circle around your bed, and place candles around the room. Make sure the room is nice and clean, and that you shower just before hand to keep you nice and clean and pure. Set up your altar in front of your bed, or even on your bed, facing the North (the place of fiery passion and of will). Place blankets and soft cushions around the room and on your bed, to make it as beautiful and as comfortable as possible. When you are ready, be dressed in your pyjamas, or even just skyclad/naked.

For couples (or groups), the living room would be best. The bedroom is not such a great idea, because you are most likely to end up in a love making session. Set up the altar in the North. Place a few cushions and blankets around on the floor (or use a chair if there isn’t any room). It would also be ideal that the floor was carpeted (can you image how cold and hard tiles would be?!). Have the circle marked out with candles, as this would make the setting much more nicer. Everyone will need to shower and be skyclad/naked or dressed in your robes (or, if you prefer, pyjamas!)

Joined Magick Cast the circle, call the quarters and call up the Goddess and God (or your patron, or any particular God/Spirit that will aid you).

Solo: Get undressed and sit in front of your altar. Start thinking about why your are performing this magic for, and maintain the image of what you want to happen in your head throughout the ritual. Take your time and really see it clear in your head. Start to touch yourself and let yourself know how special and wonderful you are. Then begin to masturbate. For the ladies, it might by best to lie down at this stage. Take your time and slowly build up to the orgasm. Once you have orgasm, see the energy shoot through your heart and sacral charka, into the circle. See it humming and filling the circle with power. Now, you can either use that for performing the rest of the ritual, or direct it into an object such as an amulet, talisman, or candle.

Partners: Get undressed and set yourselves up in front of the altar. If you are using a chair, the male sits on the chair and the female can sit on top of him, facing him. Homosexual couples (and groups bigger than two) will benefit from sitting on the floor. As before, start thinking about why your are performing this magic for, and maintain the image of what you want to happen in your head throughout the ritual, taking the time to see it really clear in your head. Once you are ready, start to fondle each other and turn each other on. One thing to remember is to know that this is not a love making session, and try not to think of how horny you make each other feel (though that can help), but to think of the energy you are transmitting. For homosexuals, it may be easier to perform mutual masturbation. Also, try to reach climax at the same time. When you do, make sure you both think of the same end point, and that it gets transmitted out from your sacral and heart charkas into the circle. When orgasmic, you can also look into each others eyes for a ‘mirroring’ effect. When you have finished, continue on as before.

Blessings to All, Mona MagickDisclaimer: Although sex can be beautiful not to mention powerful, be mindful that taking ownership of your actions is important. Please discuss the more carnal topics such as contraception if the possibility of pregnancy is not mutual; and sexual health protection of not transmitting or receiving sexually transmitted diseases. Furthermore, make sure that if in a monogamous relationship you are prepared to deal with the perils of your partner finding out about your sexual liaison with someone other than he or she. If you are uncertain with the above issues involving raising power through sex then you may want to consider masturbation as an overall safer method. And remember sex should be between mature consensual adults. Sex Magick is not for everyone, and like anything – know your partner…in this case spiritually as well.

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The 10 facts of female sexuality

December 8th, 2009 by BigJoe | No Comments | Filed in Male Masturbator

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Beliefs about female sexuality are more often based on fantasy than facts. These are the 10 essential facts that every woman (if she is interested in sharing her own sexual arousal and orgasm with a partner) should know:

(1) Enjoying orgasm through genital stimulation

Anyone, male or female, alone or with a partner, uses genital stimulation to take a mental state of sexual arousal (achieved by appreciating eroticism) to orgasm.

(2) The role of psychological sexual arousal

During masturbation men use erotic images (usually the naked body and sexual attributes of a sexual partner) and women use erotic scenarios (usually stories with a complex psychological context) for psychological sexual arousal.

(3) The role of genital stimulation

During masturbation men stimulate their penis, women stimulate their clitoris (the female sex organ) BUT genital stimulation only leads to orgasm once a person is mentally aroused. So clitoral stimulation does not by itself guarantee orgasm.

For example, even during female masturbation clitoral stimulation leads to orgasm ONLY when it is combined with the use of sexual fantasies.

(4) Fantasies can be difficult to use with a partner

Men’s arousal mechanism of erotic images transfers fairly naturally from masturbation (pornography) to sex (the body of a real-life sexual partner). Women’s fantasies do not transfer nearly as easily. Some women find that mind-based fantasies are incompatible with sex.

(5) Clitoral stimulation can be less effective during sex

Men approach sex with a desire to stimulate their penis (via intercourse or other means) because they are already aroused. A woman’s challenge is to discover how to achieve sufficient sexual arousal during sex for clitoral stimulation to be effective.

(6) Some women do use their sexual fantasies during sex

Women do not find a man’s body or his sexual attributes arousing enough for orgasm, otherwise women would enjoy pornography, pole-dancing and lap-dancing bars as men do. Some women are able to use their fantasies during sex.

Alternatively a woman may learn how to enjoy a form of physical sexual arousal and orgasm during (fantasy-inspired) sex play with a partner that is highly pleasurable although perhaps not as sexually satisfying as orgasm through fantasy.

(7) Some women do use clitoral stimulation during sex

Unfortunately, intercourse alone provides insufficient clitoral stimulation for orgasm. Shere Hite explained in ‘The Hite Report’ (1976) how SOME women learn over time (often years) to orgasm during intercourse.

EITHER they find a suitable position that maximises the indirect clitoral stimulation OR they stimulate their clitoris directly by hand during intercourse. Naturally, any woman who can orgasm through oral sex is also able to enjoy orgasm with a partner.

(8) Confusion over female orgasm

Many women dislike the eroticism that leads to sexual arousal and so they never discover masturbation. They never realise not only that orgasm is a significant pleasure but also that a woman needs to know how to achieve it. Orgasms don’t ‘just happen’.

Often it is only women who masturbate who realise that orgasm is missing from sex with a partner. Many other women assume that they orgasm from male thrusting alone even though intercourse does not provide sufficient clitoral stimulation for orgasm.

(9) Many women never orgasm by any means

Many women never orgasm during sex: not because women are dysfunctional but because sex is not designed to facilitate female orgasm either physically or psychologically. Female orgasm represents one of Nature’s redundancies.

A woman is fortunate if she discovers orgasm by any means. Unlike men, women are much less versatile in how they are able to orgasm. A woman often finds only one way to orgasm and unfortunately the easiest way is through masturbation alone.

(10) Enjoying sexual pleasure with a partner

Romance does not help directly with female orgasm but it may cause a woman to be more amenable to sex. Many women enjoy sharing physical intimacy with a loving partner regardless of their own ability to orgasm during sex.

Men approach sex with a genital focus because they are already aroused so they often fail to engage on the sensual aspects of sex. A woman accepts that female orgasm is difficult to achieve so she hopes to enjoy more general pleasuring with a lover.

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Jane Thomas author of www.WaysWomenOrgasm.org
WaysWomenOrgasm.org provides information about female sexuality including details of how women orgasm with a partner. The discussion of female sexuality covers women’s orgasm techniques including their use of clitoral stimulation and sexual fantasies.
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Clitoral Stimulation is Not Everything

December 7th, 2009 by BigJoe | No Comments | Filed in Male Masturbator

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In the 1960’s researchers confirmed that the clitoris, and not the vagina, is the origin of female orgasm. In order to explain how some women might orgasm from intercourse alone they proposed that some women find positions and techniques for sexual intercourse that maximise the indirect clitoral stimulation (caused by the action of the penis thrusting into the vagina) to enable them to reach orgasm.

“As sex therapist Lonnie Barbach notes: “In reality, the clitoris is the female sex organ. … The vagina is comparable in sensitivity to the male testicles.” (p587 Human Sexuality (fifth edition) 1995)

By the mid-1970’s though it was accepted that this indirect action was not sufficient to enable the majority of women to reach orgasm. It was agreed that most women are likely to find orgasm with a partner easier by applying orgasm techniques to sex learnt from masturbation or through oral sex because clitoral stimulation is more direct.

” … certainly, it is easier for most women to be orgasmic during masturbation than during intercourse. … With masturbation, a woman can focus sexual stimulation precisely where she finds it most arousing, … For most women, masturbation involves some form of stimulation of the clitoris, whereas with intercourse, the clitoris is only stimulated indirectly, …” (p587 Human Sexuality (fifth edition) 1995)

I found it comforting to know that there was a good reason why orgasm was so much easier through masturbation. Sadly though, the explanation has never really helped with orgasm in my sexual relationship.

Clitoral stimulation is thought to help but cannot guarantee orgasm

In fact it’s not just lack of orgasm during sexual intercourse that women struggle with but orgasm by any means with a partner. Most informed people today are aware of the importance of the clitoris and a woman can only know that something is missing from sex if she is familiar with orgasm from masturbation. So why do women still ask about orgasm with a partner?

Experts often imply that female orgasm is easily achieved but if it was a simple as pressing a button, surely we would all have worked it out by now? I appreciate that sexual ignorance is rife out there but surely it is accepted that the ‘informed couple’ exists? Don’t sex experts realise that couples read sex manuals and try different approaches to sex?

Clitoral stimulation is known to assist with orgasm during female masturbation but only when combined with the use of highly explicit sexual fantasies. So the suggestion that clitoral stimulation alone will lead to orgasm during sex with a partner is simply a shot in the dark – a suggestion that is intended to be helpful but one that can, in fact, be quite misleading.

Despite all the limelight that our genitals (clitoris/penis) get, it is in fact the brain that is the main sex organ. If you cannot generate some psychological sexual arousal then you can forget about the rest. I have certainly never been able to use my fantasies effectively during sex with a partner – it just does not work the same way. After years of researching the small print, I also know that I am not the only woman who has had this experience.

Women’s sexual arousal relies on sexual fantasies during masturbation and many women are able to use the same orgasm techniques during sex. Try bringing some sexual fantasies into sex with a partner even if that means reading some erotica while he touches you up. This can be a very enjoyable precursor to sex if nothing else.

I find that women’s erotica can be a little too ’soft porn’ and overly focused on the woman’s body. If you want something a little more gutsy then try some homosexual erotica, which can be a real turn-on because it is full of male body parts, anal sex and fellatio. Of course, there’s always the more mundane domination and sadism which gets many of us going, like it or not.

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Female Sexual Pleasure is Not Required For Successful Reproduction

December 7th, 2009 by BigJoe | No Comments | Filed in Male Masturbator

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I have questioned my sexual experiences since the very first time I had sex. It has amazed me that more women don’t question.

We have known since the 1970’s that vaginal intercourse doesn’t provide sufficient PHYSICAL stimulation (of the clitoris) for orgasm.

My stumbling block was even more fundamental. How do women achieve the PSYCHOLOGICAL arousal needed for orgasm during sex?

Over the years, I have found very few women who seem bothered that sex is unlikely to provide female orgasm. I understand that women who never masturbate are not motivated by orgasm. I am targeting women who are familiar with orgasm from masturbation and who are interested in experiencing something similar with a partner.

Women do not become aroused enough for orgasm simply by looking at the naked male body. If we did, then we would also pay to enjoy the sight of the male body as men do through lap-dancing and pole-dancing bars. Equally, women would buy pornographic magazines (as men do) to enjoy looking at pictures of naked men.

Men learn from masturbation that their sexual arousal arises from an appreciation of pictures of naked women, especially their sexual attributes. This enables men to become easily aroused during sex with a partner.

Women learn from masturbation that their sexual arousal arises from an appreciation of eroticism, through sexual fantasies. These are complex psychological scenarios that involve the behaviour and personalities of imagined characters.

A high level of focus is needed to reach orgasm from sexual fantasies alone. Not only is it difficult to achieve the necessary focus in the presence of another person, even a lover, but such a mental block-out is frankly incompatible when ‘making love’ with a partner.

Men’s psychological arousal is almost instant partly because their bodies are full of the sex hormone, testosterone. Sex has been designed to facilitate male orgasm, which helps provide men with some of the motivation to support a family.

Women’s sexual role (during sex with a partner) remains what it always was:

This explains the contradiction of rape. How can an act that is supposed to be spontaneously pleasurably also inflict so much misery on women? Men are not victims of rape (through vaginal intercourse) as women are because intercourse is an act of male sexual dominance. A woman accepts this sexual subordination only once she has identified a man as a potential mate.

Female orgasm is not required for reproduction. Whether we like it or not, orgasm represents a much smaller part of the wider picture of female sexuality. Luckily women do not have a biological drive to reach orgasm (as men do) so, without an expectation for orgasm, they have nothing to miss.

Women’s modern day interest in orgasm comes from the expectations that were set during the sexual revolution. This has also increased the pressure from men who have always hoped that women might be as enthusiastic about sex as they are.

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Female Orgasm Training Can Be a Factor

December 6th, 2009 by BigJoe | No Comments | Filed in Male Masturbator

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One of the most interesting phenomenons I’ve witnessed in dealing with human sexuality is the ability of people to train themselves into having an orgasm. Any one who has ever masturbated has engaged in a self-training program which has taught them how to orgasm. Before we talk about female training, I’ll give you an example from male sexuality.
I worked with a male once who was a regular masturbator. During masturbation, he fantasized about having his partner bent over the edge of a couch and engaging in rear penetration, not anal sex. For months he used this same fantasy to help him reach orgasm during masturbation. This affected his sex life. When he was having sex with his partner, he found that he was losing his erection and finding it difficult to climax in any other position.
The only way he was able to reach orgasm during actual sex was by imitating what he had been doing in his masturbation fantasies. Essentially, he had trained himself about how to get off.
Men are not the only ones who train themselves. In fact, the training men do usually does not interfere with their ability to reach an orgasm during actual intercourse. With women, it’s different.
Women train themselves in two ways. First, they train themselves to reach orgasm using specific techniques. Second, they train themselves for each orgasm using certain fantasies. Let’s talk about both of these.
When women begin masturbating, they do tend to try multiple ways of accomplishing the goal. Once they find something that works then they stick to it. Let me give you an example. One woman I worked with had been masturbating with a vibrator for about ten years. She had to use the same vibrator every time because she claimed no other vibrator could bring her to orgasm. With sexual partners, she would fake orgasm then excuse herself to the bathroom where she would reach a real orgasm using her vibrator. After a decade of relying on the same toy and the same technique to reach orgasm, this young woman had taught her body how to have an orgasm. Since her partner’s penis was not her vibrator, it was not capable of doing the job.
To his credit, he did try a variety of things to help her but the problem really wasn’t his alone to fix. She had to re-train her body.
The second method of training often begins even before a woman ever masturbates. As soon as girls begin fantasizing about men, they are beginning to train their bodies about how to reach orgasm. I have another example to share which illustrates this fact as well. A woman I worked with had been relying on the same fantasies during masturbation for almost two decades. Her preference were rape fantasies in which she was the victim and was non-violently coerced into having intercourse with multiple partners. The fantasies involved different scenarios, locations, and men but the basics were all the same.
Even when she tried to have other fantasies, they would always end up deteriorating into a rape fantasy before she was able to orgasm. The only time she was able to reach an orgasm with her husband was when they attempted to act out her fantasy. Like the other woman, she had to re-train her mind about what turned her on and what would lead her to an orgasm.
The reason I’m sharing these stories with you is because orgasm training is one of the biggest, yet most often unrecognized, reasons for women’s difficulties in reaching an orgasm.
The only way to break free of that old training is through experimentation. The more the two of you try different things the more likely she is to find something else that can help her climax.
Keep in mind that there are a number of reasons why women may have more difficulty reaching an orgasm than men will. Those reasons include social pressures not to enjoy sex, a lack of trust in the relationship, anatomical differences between men and women, and limited orgasm training.
Understanding what may be hampering your sexual relationship will help you determine the best course of action to take in order to enjoy mutually satisfying sex.

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A Fresh Look at Sexual Arousal

December 6th, 2009 by BigJoe | No Comments | Filed in Male Masturbator

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Men’s arousal is very evident (especially when naked) because a man’s erection is difficult to miss. Likewise a man’s orgasm is easy to identify because it is usually co-incident with ejaculation.

Women’s anatomy and physiology does not allow for the same kind of irrefutable evidence. This makes it easier for women to fake but also for everyone to be less sure about how women’s arousal is achieved.

Andrew Stanway lists male turn-ons, which include most parts of a woman’s body. He concludes: “It is less easy to assess psycho-sexual triggers for women than for men.” (p127 Loving Touch 1993)

The book notes that women can be attracted to assertive or competent men but no one is suggesting that these attributes assist with female sexual arousal. So how do women achieve arousal and orgasm?

Women certainly do not become aroused enough for orgasm by looking at the naked male body. If they did, sales of porn for women would presumably equal that sold to men on a daily basis.

Another reason for being confident about male orgasm is because men are familiar with orgasm from masturbation. Since most women never learn how to masturbate to orgasm, they never learn how their own arousal works. In order to experience orgasm a woman needs to know how to become sexually aroused enough (both mentally and physically) to reach orgasm.

How do women become sexually aroused enough to reach orgasm?

Anyone who is familiar with orgasm will know that, despite all the fuss made about physical stimulation, this aspect of sex can be a complete red herring. In other words, knowing which body part to stimulate is useful but not the whole story.

Clitoral stimulation is not everything. After all, our ability to orgasm during sex (as during masturbation) ultimately depends on what happens in the brain. Yet we rarely acknowledge the PSYCHOLOGICAL aspects of sex.

“However we feel about fantasies, it is clear that sex is not, for most of us, just a rubbing together of bodies, but involves our minds … We take our minds with us into each sexual encounter.” (p81 Woman’s Experience of Sex 1983)

We often talk about sexual arousal as if an erection is caused purely by physical stimulation. This is partly because men’s psychological sexual arousal is usually a given. Women who masturbate know that they have to take a vastly different approach in order to CONSCIOUSLY generate sexual arousal and orgasm.

Men use fantasy to enhance arousal when they are engaged in activities that are not arousing enough for orgasm, such as masturbation alone, unimaginative sex or sex with an uninspiring partner. Under more ideal circumstances (e.g. adventurous sex with a stunning partner) men would never consider using fantasy. So the use of fantasy has negative connotations for men.

I am suggesting that fantasy plays a much more critical role in women’s sexual arousal.

“Women fantasize more than men, and their fantasies are extremely explicit” (p177 Satisfaction Guaranteed 1996)

True sexual arousal arises in the mind through our senses (sight, smell and touch) as well as our imagination (fantasy). A lover’s body does not cause female sexual arousal any more than images of naked men (porn) during masturbation. So if sight is less effective in arousing women it makes sense that they need to use other means, such as imagination, to substitute.

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Treatment of Acne With Proper Medication

December 4th, 2009 by BigJoe | No Comments | Filed in Male Masturbator

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Acne vulgaris is commonly known as pimples. Acne vulgaris is an inflammatory disease. Acne affects human body at the beginning of puberty. The intensity of the disease generally lowers down after crossing teenage. The disease equally affects both men and women. Face and neck are those part of the body where acne prominently can occur however, it can also affects chest, back, arms and upper parts of legs. The disease is associated with hair follicles and sebaceous glands. People of western countries are most vulnerable to this problem as imbalance in gene also can be a cause of acne.

At reaching puberty sebaceous glands secrete excessive oil which blocks hair follicles. This is the heaven for the skin bacteria Propionibacterium acne. These bacteria rapidly increase their strength by multiple cell divisions in these oil accumulated pores. This forms cyst beneath the skin; the skin above these cyst becomes bulged and deformed. Acne leaves permanent scars on the skin whenever better treatment is not done for this.

Unbalancing in the level of those hormones which are secreted to attain puberty is supposed to be the prime factor causing acne. There are many other factors which are supposed to affect occurrence of acne. Most prominent causes are stress, irregular menstrual cycles, allergies, use of steroids, accumulation of dead skin, and side effects of iodine, chlorine, bromine, lithium based medication.

Acne is not initiated or stimulated by the consumption of chocolate, fried food and sugar rich diet. Though excess iodine can cause acne but its incorporation with sea food is not established. Myth stating masturbation increases impact of acne has no scientific ground.

The quest for searching a better treatment for acne is going on for millenniums. Hot water treatment, mineral water treatment, and sulphur treatment, were the common ways by which people tried to cure acne. Only in early twentieth century, efforts were made to cure acne with the help of antibiotic like benzoyl peroxide. Since then many development in medical treatment of acne have been noticed. Supplementing diet with vitamin A pills, laser treatment and light therapy are most prominent and relatively advanced techniques for acne treatment.

The new techniques for curing acne are expensive; it is not possible for everyone to afford the cost of laser and light therapy. Doctors still prescribe benzoyl peroxide based topical cream to be applied on acne affected area. Benzoyl peroxide dissolves dead skin and opens pores of skin. Creams containing Azeliac acid are also beneficial for the acne treatment. Oral antibiotic like tetracycline and doxycycline can also accompany topical creams for effective acne treatment. Acne in female is generally treated with hormone therapy. These hormonal pills are alike contraceptive pill containing progestogen which acts against acne causing testosterone. Acne generally takes two to three month to flatten down after starting treatment for it.

Medication for acne must be taken on doctor’s prescription as these medicines may have some side effects.

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How to Take Decision Regarding the Prostate Cancer Treatment Option?

December 4th, 2009 by BigJoe | No Comments | Filed in Male Masturbator

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CANCER.these five letters can change your life forever! Nobody wants to be diagnosed with this killer disease, but millions of Americans are being diagnosed with cancer each year. Prostate cancer especially became a sort of endemic problem for the developed countries in America, Europe and Australia. According to some estimate, about 10% of total US male population is expected to get prostate cancer of which approximately 4% would die eventually.
Figures are dreadful, right? But there is no need to panic; if the disease is detected at a fairly early stage, the chances of recovery are excellent. Advances in the medical researches made significant progress in the detection of the disease as well as in its treatments.
Once a person is diagnosed with prostate cancer, you are faced with an important consideration; you have to make decision on the type of treatment. Naturally you would choose the treatment that is best for you. But how can you know which treatment is best for you?
There are various treatment options for a patient diagnosed with an early stage of prostate cancer. Advanced researches have opened up new avenues in the treatment of this deadly disease and choosing the most reasonable treatment from among these multiple options is going to be confusing task. Every option has its own pros and cons and that can make your decision making process difficult.
Your goal should be to find out the best prostate cancer treatment option. The best treatment however depends on a man’s age and general health. The choice is also going to be conditioned by the stage of the cancer and its location. Lastly the personal choice of the patient also counts in deciding upon the treatment.
Particularly so far as prostate cancer is concerned, you should involve your spouse in the decision making process, as the outcome of the treatment is going to affect the future lifestyle of both of you.
The perspectives on the disease may vary with age of the patient. While a senior patient tends to view the disease as one of the chronic conditions of the old age, and his focus will be to avoid its inconvenient symptoms, the younger patient’s objectives will be to get complete cure from the disease.
As such the senior patients in most of the cases will try to avoid treatments that come with side effects, such as radiation and surgery, and instead consider hormone therapy or watchful waiting. The younger patients on the other hand will be recommended such therapies as external radiation, radical prostatectomy, and brachytherapy that promise the maximum chances of cure.
Thus decision about prostate cancer treatment is a highly individualistic choice that must be taken on the basis of your age and your other health conditions. To find the best solution follow these steps:
- Make researches about prostate cancer
- Seek the advice of a reputed physician
- Ask your doctor to explain your clinical stage and pathological grade of prostate cancer and the treatment options appropriate for this condition
Remember, what is right for one person may not be right for another. So take an informed decision only after thoroughly weighing up the pros and cons of each treatment; the chances of survival are very high with the application of suitable therapy.

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